How to Write Wedding Vows

5 Written by natasha on June 25, 2009 – 8:00 am

A lot of couples want to personalize their wedding vows, but it’s hard to come up with things to write or what to say. So here’s some help.  Some couples want to write the vows for the officiant together and then they want to have vows that they say separately.

Find some time to sit down and work on your vows when it is quiet and there aren’t other things going on. One site suggests that you give a time limit and then write a letter that includes why you love your partner, a few of your favorite times together, and a few quotes. Take your time and be specific; dont make it short and sweet!

You should also come up with a list of words that you want to incorporate into your vows — either the ones said by the officiant or that you say. Examples? Love, Friendship… Etc.

If you’re having trouble, answer some simple questions about your relationship. Examples? What is the greatest thing you love about your partner? How/when did you know that your partner was “the one”?

Then exchange the letters, answers, and words. Read them, cry, hug, and then figure out what you might be able to incorporate into vows. Make sure you’re both on the same page about what you want and what you’re looking for!

Here is a sample wedding vow, from BrilliantWeddingPages:

“From this moment, I, Name, take you, Name, as my best friend for life. I pledge to honor, encourage, and support you through our walk together. When our way becomes difficult, I promise to stand by you and uplift you, so that through our union we can accomplish more than we could alone. I promise to work at our love and always make you a priority in my life. With every beat of my heart, I will love you. This is my solemn vow.”

If you’re looking for quotes or guidance for a religious ceremony, ForeverWed has a great guide to check out.

NOTE: If you do write your own wedding vows, some states require you to say (or not say) certain things. Make sure you check your county and state requirements before your wedding day!

Do you have other suggestions on writing wedding vows? Let us know!

~ Natasha