Short Verses Long Engagement

4 Written by natasha on March 6, 2009 – 8:00 am

photo from: http://www.jenshansen.com/blog/images/wedding_rings2.jpg

A friend of mine once told me that being engaged was one of the best parts of her and her husband’s relationship (this was before the wedding, I shouild note). But she also said that it was the most stressful. With that in mind, I thought I’d create a list of Pros and Cons for having a short or a long engagement.

Pro for Short Engagement

• Less time to be stressed out about planning
• Not spending a lot of time worrying about everything, so you get over with quickly
• No time to get into arguments with the bridal party
• No time to regret decisions or think twice about style

Cons for a Short Engagement

• You have to decide quickly (and time flies when you have lots to do!)
• Unless you have all the money in the world, you may not get exactly what you want
• Not much time to enjoy being engaged
• You get stressed about the quick planning
• Finding a date to get married will be hard
• You lose your ability to get your first choice of things

Pro for a Long Engagement

• More time to plan the perfect wedding, and at prices you can afford
• More time to enjoy being engaged
• You can pick the date before anyone else takes it (eg destination or holiday weddings, you can give people better notice)
• You get to pick your venue of choice, get the band you want, and everything else

Con for a Long Engagement

• More time to stress about the details and feel pressure
• More time for nerves to kick in
• Easy way to procrastinate (which might be a pro?)

What other reasons are there for a long or short engagement? Remember, no matter how long or short you’re engaged, you’re going to want a photo album to capture all the photos that your guests take.

~ Natasha